Adam & Eve

In the beginning there was Adam and Eve.....


           God made Eve from Adams rib therefore they were two parts of a whole. Eve loved Adam so much that she wanted to share everything with him, hence her offering him the fruit  of the tree of knowledge. Also Adam  loved Eve so much that he was willing to disobey God for her.

       In 21st century terms every man out there has a woman that has been made and designed for him and the same goes for every woman there is a man out there just for her. However it is not always easy for them to find each other.

         With that said men if you find yourself with a woman that makes your life miserable and doesn't appreciate you, do not waste your time and for heaven sake do not marry her for that is not who God has for you. I'm so tired of seeing people trapped in an unhappy marriage because they went out and married the first thing they fell for.  She is definitely not your Eve. Likewise women if a man mistreats you, abuses you and makes you cry he is not your Adam.

           Keep in mind guys and gals that no one in their right mind abuses and mistreats themselves and and if you are a part of them that makes you one. The Bible tells you that when a man and woman marries that they become one but don't wait until you've already committed yourself in marriage to realize that you got the wrong one. Observe the signs, they are usually there from the beginning. Find that person that completes you, do not settle until you've found your Adam/Eve.


          The goal in life when it comes to love is to live happily ever after or as close to it as we can get, for no one is perfect. We can not accomplish this if we are involved with the wrong person. To often we don't realize what I call the Adam and Eve complex and we end up in divorce court...this is seen in the countless amounts of marriages that the celebrities that we admire so much run in and out. We should not model our lives around them but instead seek to find that person that we share a rib with.  I haven't found my soul mate yet but I refuse to settle for less than a man that who lives to see a smile on my face. That man is my Adam.





    

It's The Little Things That Count!

            This is food for thought boys and girls!

    As human beings we place so much emphasis on material things in a relationship that  we forget all about the relationship itself  and exactly what being in a real relationship and in love means.

      

               Take Valentines Day for example very few ladies do not anticipate this day. They know that this is the day that they will receive those big basket filled with loads of cheap goods that cost men more than they are worth. This is also the day when they are taken out to the most expensive restaurants and wined and dined never mind that homeboy may not be able to afford it. There were a lot of women depressed or angry because they weren't the recipients of such pleasures. With this being said I ask  this question "What is the big deal?" I see nothing wrong with receiving gifts but why do we make it mandatory for our men to dig so deep in their pockets just to please our egos knowing full well that in this day and time so many of them cannot afford it. Is it because we define love by the material things that we get?

                     Personally I appreciate the little things. I adore having my feet rubbed or dinner cooked for me or even having my guy clean the house so that I have one less thing to worry about. As women we should not put so much pressure on our men just so we can brag about what we got to our friends or post pictures up on some social network. Being in a relationship and in love means so much more than this it means doing things for each other that matter and come from the heart .

                      I am just going to put this little piece in for the guys because some of you only try to show love on Valentines Day. I don't know if it is because you feel to macho or you're just clueless as to what it is that you are suppose to be doing but let me educate you. Gift giving , dinner dates and other romantic gestures are not only for Valentines Day. Love should be shown all year round. Everyday you should tell your woman that you love her, tell her that she is beautiful and show her that she is the most important thing in your life. This is needed, she should never have to guess. Its the little things that you do that keeps the relationship going. I know as a woman, I appreciate those surprise phone calls in the middle of the day just because, or those kit kats and bounty's because he knows that I have a huge sweet tooth. Love your woman all year round.

            

                  Now ladies back to you why is it that only the guys are expected to pull off the romantic gestures? Get off your butts and make your man feel special. Send him a gift, rub his feet, treat him to dinner. Make it about him sometimes...it should not always be about you.  It should not always be about what you want.

                     Finally I say showing love does not always have to be expensive... think about little things that you can do together. A picnic under the stars in the back yard, movie night at home, giving each other massages, a candle lite dinner at home, hand written love notes left around the house and in clothing are a few things that can be done. Take a page from Alicia Keys song"If I ain't got you" shes says she doesn't want all of the money and the gifts all she wants is to be with her guy. Remember if it is true love the material things are just bonuses that you can do without, its the love and the little things that count.

                    

                         

Try and Try Again

"Sometimes you have to kiss a few frogs before you can find your prince>" This is one of my favourite quotes even though I don't know who to give credit for it. To the guys I like to inject my own quote "Sometimes you have to kiss a few swans in order to find your princess." (  Yes I love fairy tales)

                    Just recently on my Facebook page I've noticed a lot of my friends male and female seem to have given up on this game we call love. Their common cry is that they are tired of constantly ending up in dead end relationships that eventually end as quickly as they started. I don't think many of them realize that a good and lasting relationship just like anything else in life has to be worked on. Being in a relationship is hard and maintaining a good and happy relationship is even harder. It requires work from both parties involved. If only one side is working then that is not a relationship and everyone involved should just walk away.

Instead of us getting all depressed and crying over what we know couldn't work out in the first place or saying stupid things like "I'll never date again", we should consider every failed relationship  to be a learning experience. Every person that has come into and walked out (or had to be thrown out of our  lives) were sent to teach us something, now what we learnt is up to us.

Its is easier to say learn from your past than to actually do it but in order for the healing to begin we have to learn and let go! If we don't learn then we set ourselves up to make the same mistakes over and over again...failure would be the only option in this case. So if you find yourself at the end of a failed relationship don't cry, don't dwell on it pick yourself up and give yourself some me time. In this me time you figure out what went wrong, what could have been done differently (if anything) and what you really want out of a relationship. If you know what you want before hand then you know what to embrace and what to avoid.

So instead of giving up and trying to bury yourself in the sand after a breakup try to learn, heal and move on all in that order. Don't rush it now because I know some people two weeks later they dating again. Really give yourself time to heal and then attempt to get back in the car (model of your choice). In my Madea voice "sometimes God sends you the bad so that you may appreciate the good". I'm still waiting on my good and I don't mind kissing a few frogs until I find him....its just a part of life!