Try and Try Again

"Sometimes you have to kiss a few frogs before you can find your prince>" This is one of my favourite quotes even though I don't know who to give credit for it. To the guys I like to inject my own quote "Sometimes you have to kiss a few swans in order to find your princess." (  Yes I love fairy tales)

                    Just recently on my Facebook page I've noticed a lot of my friends male and female seem to have given up on this game we call love. Their common cry is that they are tired of constantly ending up in dead end relationships that eventually end as quickly as they started. I don't think many of them realize that a good and lasting relationship just like anything else in life has to be worked on. Being in a relationship is hard and maintaining a good and happy relationship is even harder. It requires work from both parties involved. If only one side is working then that is not a relationship and everyone involved should just walk away.

Instead of us getting all depressed and crying over what we know couldn't work out in the first place or saying stupid things like "I'll never date again", we should consider every failed relationship  to be a learning experience. Every person that has come into and walked out (or had to be thrown out of our  lives) were sent to teach us something, now what we learnt is up to us.

Its is easier to say learn from your past than to actually do it but in order for the healing to begin we have to learn and let go! If we don't learn then we set ourselves up to make the same mistakes over and over again...failure would be the only option in this case. So if you find yourself at the end of a failed relationship don't cry, don't dwell on it pick yourself up and give yourself some me time. In this me time you figure out what went wrong, what could have been done differently (if anything) and what you really want out of a relationship. If you know what you want before hand then you know what to embrace and what to avoid.

So instead of giving up and trying to bury yourself in the sand after a breakup try to learn, heal and move on all in that order. Don't rush it now because I know some people two weeks later they dating again. Really give yourself time to heal and then attempt to get back in the car (model of your choice). In my Madea voice "sometimes God sends you the bad so that you may appreciate the good". I'm still waiting on my good and I don't mind kissing a few frogs until I find him....its just a part of life!