This is food for thought boys and girls!
As human beings we place so much emphasis on material things in a relationship that we forget all about the relationship itself and exactly what being in a real relationship and in love means.
Take Valentines Day for example very few ladies do not anticipate this day. They know that this is the day that they will receive those big basket filled with loads of cheap goods that cost men more than they are worth. This is also the day when they are taken out to the most expensive restaurants and wined and dined never mind that homeboy may not be able to afford it. There were a lot of women depressed or angry because they weren't the recipients of such pleasures. With this being said I ask this question "What is the big deal?" I see nothing wrong with receiving gifts but why do we make it mandatory for our men to dig so deep in their pockets just to please our egos knowing full well that in this day and time so many of them cannot afford it. Is it because we define love by the material things that we get?
Personally I appreciate the little things. I adore having my feet rubbed or dinner cooked for me or even having my guy clean the house so that I have one less thing to worry about. As women we should not put so much pressure on our men just so we can brag about what we got to our friends or post pictures up on some social network. Being in a relationship and in love means so much more than this it means doing things for each other that matter and come from the heart .
I am just going to put this little piece in for the guys because some of you only try to show love on Valentines Day. I don't know if it is because you feel to macho or you're just clueless as to what it is that you are suppose to be doing but let me educate you. Gift giving , dinner dates and other romantic gestures are not only for Valentines Day. Love should be shown all year round. Everyday you should tell your woman that you love her, tell her that she is beautiful and show her that she is the most important thing in your life. This is needed, she should never have to guess. Its the little things that you do that keeps the relationship going. I know as a woman, I appreciate those surprise phone calls in the middle of the day just because, or those kit kats and bounty's because he knows that I have a huge sweet tooth. Love your woman all year round.
Now ladies back to you why is it that only the guys are expected to pull off the romantic gestures? Get off your butts and make your man feel special. Send him a gift, rub his feet, treat him to dinner. Make it about him sometimes...it should not always be about you. It should not always be about what you want.
Finally I say showing love does not always have to be expensive... think about little things that you can do together. A picnic under the stars in the back yard, movie night at home, giving each other massages, a candle lite dinner at home, hand written love notes left around the house and in clothing are a few things that can be done. Take a page from Alicia Keys song"If I ain't got you" shes says she doesn't want all of the money and the gifts all she wants is to be with her guy. Remember if it is true love the material things are just bonuses that you can do without, its the love and the little things that count.
